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purplerabbit) wrote2005-05-11 07:05 pm
purplerabbit) wrote2005-05-11 07:05 pm
Disclaimer
I guess I should make this an annual post!
Do not assume you can tell my mental health from livejournal! (Or anyone else's for that matter.) I do not post my daily thoughts to this place.
This may sound weird, but I am a heavy thinker. I am always thinking. I spend a lot of time thinking about things that never get posted to livejournal, either because I don't feel inclined to share or have the time etc. When I do post, it is usually because something inspired me to do so. Maybe it was something really wonderful. Maybe it was something really aweful or painful. Just because you see highs and lows posted, do not assume I spend all my time fascilating between extremes. I usually am not inspired to write, "average day, not bad, not good." If I posted everything, it would be either too long or boring, or both.
If you do not spend much time around me, do not make the assumption that you have any idea what I am like on a daily basis.
Note for those who don't like expressions of intense emotions -- maybe this isn't the right journal to read. I like writing about emotions. As a writer, I also tend to use more poetic and dramatic styles to express myself than many others. That doesn't mean the emotions aren't real but it also doesn't mean that I am always dramatic. Most my days are actually pretty quiet.
In addition, you may find the next month of my life may be more emotionally intense than usual. This month is the 30 year aniversary of my dad's death and the 7 year aniversary of when my ex assaulted me and took our child. Violent crimes both that were very painful for me and probably always will be.
If you think that a person should "just get over it" when something like that happens -- well, that is, in my opinion (and most psychology), a very unrealistic and completely unhelpful attitude. If you can't be supportive, at least keep the "silver lining" speeches to yourself.
NO DAISIES! I had a wise disabled friend who refered to those folks who are always telling to her to look on the bright side as trying to "shove daisies up her ass." So, please, if you like daisies, plant them in your garden, don't try sticking them in me. I have a garden and I much prefer iris, impatients and roses.
Do not assume you can tell my mental health from livejournal! (Or anyone else's for that matter.) I do not post my daily thoughts to this place.
This may sound weird, but I am a heavy thinker. I am always thinking. I spend a lot of time thinking about things that never get posted to livejournal, either because I don't feel inclined to share or have the time etc. When I do post, it is usually because something inspired me to do so. Maybe it was something really wonderful. Maybe it was something really aweful or painful. Just because you see highs and lows posted, do not assume I spend all my time fascilating between extremes. I usually am not inspired to write, "average day, not bad, not good." If I posted everything, it would be either too long or boring, or both.
If you do not spend much time around me, do not make the assumption that you have any idea what I am like on a daily basis.
Note for those who don't like expressions of intense emotions -- maybe this isn't the right journal to read. I like writing about emotions. As a writer, I also tend to use more poetic and dramatic styles to express myself than many others. That doesn't mean the emotions aren't real but it also doesn't mean that I am always dramatic. Most my days are actually pretty quiet.
In addition, you may find the next month of my life may be more emotionally intense than usual. This month is the 30 year aniversary of my dad's death and the 7 year aniversary of when my ex assaulted me and took our child. Violent crimes both that were very painful for me and probably always will be.
If you think that a person should "just get over it" when something like that happens -- well, that is, in my opinion (and most psychology), a very unrealistic and completely unhelpful attitude. If you can't be supportive, at least keep the "silver lining" speeches to yourself.
NO DAISIES! I had a wise disabled friend who refered to those folks who are always telling to her to look on the bright side as trying to "shove daisies up her ass." So, please, if you like daisies, plant them in your garden, don't try sticking them in me. I have a garden and I much prefer iris, impatients and roses.
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Often I find that when I'm at peace, I don't *need* to write. Certainly, I can write so that people know I'm not all doom'n'gloom, and sometimes I do. But mostly I feel too busy LIVING to sit there and detail it for all the world to see.
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*sigh*
I'm sorry clueless people are getting on your nerves. I love you because of/in spite of mood changes. And I have NEVER thought you should just *get over it*...what a stupid thing to say to someone.
*hugs*