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purplerabbitOkay, so I probably babble too much about how much I adore my kid. Sometimes when he is away, I almost convince myself that no kid could be as great or as much fun as I remember him. Then he is here and he manages to surprise and delight me even more.
I know he isn't perfect, but he is perfect for me. He makes mistakes but rarely does anything out of malice. Usually his "bad behaviors" are either 1) a misunderstanding of the instructions, 2) lack of knowledge of the world and/or people, and/or 3) forgetfulness. These are, of course, complicated by having to live by a very different set of rules and social expectations between here and his other home. Given all that, I think he does remarkably well.
I am always amazed at his gentleness with other children, especially the younger ones. He is conscious of the fact that they look up to them and very much tries to be a "good role model." At the festival, a three year old boy was following him around like a baby duckling. Many nine-year-olds would be annoyed by this.![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
fairieboy took it as a special honor and was gentle and loving with the little boy. He was teaching him with the same techniques we use with him. For example, while they were sitting at the table in the Meadow Bldg eating, the little boy put his foot up on the table. fairieboy gently but firmly took the boy's foot and put it back down while saying, "No, we don't put feet on the table." The little boy did it again. fairieboy repeated. The little boy stopped. It was such a perfect example of how we have handled him that it took my breath away. At one point fairieboy smiled at me and said proudly, "(little boy's name) is very smart. And I think he is learning from me."
With his "Fairie God Sister" Victoria, he shows a similar paitence and gentleness that always takes my breathe away. They so delight in each other that it is a joy to watch. He takes pride in her accomplishments, delights in her joy and is understanding of her needs. When I was a girl, I always wanted a big brother just like that. The closest I had was my older cousins Tammy and Terry who have always treated me as their little sister with all the same unconditional love that I see infairieboy.
At another point, he sagely explained to me that he knows that sometimes his other parent does things she shouldn't, but that he loves her anyway. I told him I understood. That we don't love people just when they are being good. I love him even when he makes mistakes. We all need to be loved even when we aren't at our best.
Is it any wonder that my days withfairieboy are always so joyous.
I know he isn't perfect, but he is perfect for me. He makes mistakes but rarely does anything out of malice. Usually his "bad behaviors" are either 1) a misunderstanding of the instructions, 2) lack of knowledge of the world and/or people, and/or 3) forgetfulness. These are, of course, complicated by having to live by a very different set of rules and social expectations between here and his other home. Given all that, I think he does remarkably well.
I am always amazed at his gentleness with other children, especially the younger ones. He is conscious of the fact that they look up to them and very much tries to be a "good role model." At the festival, a three year old boy was following him around like a baby duckling. Many nine-year-olds would be annoyed by this.
fairieboy took it as a special honor and was gentle and loving with the little boy. He was teaching him with the same techniques we use with him. For example, while they were sitting at the table in the Meadow Bldg eating, the little boy put his foot up on the table. fairieboy gently but firmly took the boy's foot and put it back down while saying, "No, we don't put feet on the table." The little boy did it again. fairieboy repeated. The little boy stopped. It was such a perfect example of how we have handled him that it took my breath away. At one point fairieboy smiled at me and said proudly, "(little boy's name) is very smart. And I think he is learning from me." With his "Fairie God Sister" Victoria, he shows a similar paitence and gentleness that always takes my breathe away. They so delight in each other that it is a joy to watch. He takes pride in her accomplishments, delights in her joy and is understanding of her needs. When I was a girl, I always wanted a big brother just like that. The closest I had was my older cousins Tammy and Terry who have always treated me as their little sister with all the same unconditional love that I see in
fairieboy.At another point, he sagely explained to me that he knows that sometimes his other parent does things she shouldn't, but that he loves her anyway. I told him I understood. That we don't love people just when they are being good. I love him even when he makes mistakes. We all need to be loved even when we aren't at our best.
Is it any wonder that my days with
fairieboy are always so joyous.
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