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Pulls out the soap box. Shakes out the dust (it has been a little while). Turns it over and checks to make sure the wood is still strong. Steps up and clears throat. Hopes no one will throw rotten food but not be surprised if they do. In voice she hopes will carry among those who really aren't listening anyway, she begins to rant.
First, if you think this about you, it probably is. (Whether I know it or not).
If you think it was written with only one person or situation in mind, you're ego is out of hand. In fact, this rant is inspired by a number of people and situations lately and based on years of observation and, sometimes, painful personal experience as well.
BIG TRUTH: Lies, half truths, secrets and lies of omission will come back to bite you in the ass! And, you know what? They should!
Furthermore, whining about the person who turned you in for being dishonest is really a pretty sorry response to getting caught. If you had been honest in the first place, you wouldn't have to worry about whether or not so-and-so told on you. Outside of your therapist or priest-in-a-confessional, no one should have to carry the responsbility for keeping your deceit a secret.
And what, pray tell, made you think it was a good idea to put your dishonesty in writing as well? You think email, LJ or IM is private? You might as well publish it in the newspaper. If it was a secret, then you should have kept your secret to yourself instead of trying to include others in your deceit. Once you put something in writing, you no longer have control over where it goes. If you then put it anywhere out of your own hands, then you might as well publish it. Expecting the internet, in any form, to be private is, at best, not logical and at worst, delusional.
Lying to people is bad enough. Don't expect others to lie for you. And have the good grace when caught not to make believe that the person who turned you in is the bigger culprit. They betrayed your trust you say? How about the person who you lied to in the first place? Did you betray their trust? Try to take some responsibility for your own actions or inactions.
No, I am not saying this because I "turned someone in." As far as I know, I haven't revealed anything told to me in confidence in a long time. I just get tired of trying to advise people or listen to people complain who have lied and now wonder why things have gotten messy.
I do believe people are usually doing the best they know how to do. But sometimes I really wish I could get through to them that they way they are doing is destructive. Please, learn a new way!
Stop lying to yourself and to others!
Shakes head. Takes deep breath and steps down off the box. Picks up the box and goes back to her place as friend who listens compassionately and tries to understand everyone.
First, if you think this about you, it probably is. (Whether I know it or not).
If you think it was written with only one person or situation in mind, you're ego is out of hand. In fact, this rant is inspired by a number of people and situations lately and based on years of observation and, sometimes, painful personal experience as well.
BIG TRUTH: Lies, half truths, secrets and lies of omission will come back to bite you in the ass! And, you know what? They should!
Furthermore, whining about the person who turned you in for being dishonest is really a pretty sorry response to getting caught. If you had been honest in the first place, you wouldn't have to worry about whether or not so-and-so told on you. Outside of your therapist or priest-in-a-confessional, no one should have to carry the responsbility for keeping your deceit a secret.
And what, pray tell, made you think it was a good idea to put your dishonesty in writing as well? You think email, LJ or IM is private? You might as well publish it in the newspaper. If it was a secret, then you should have kept your secret to yourself instead of trying to include others in your deceit. Once you put something in writing, you no longer have control over where it goes. If you then put it anywhere out of your own hands, then you might as well publish it. Expecting the internet, in any form, to be private is, at best, not logical and at worst, delusional.
Lying to people is bad enough. Don't expect others to lie for you. And have the good grace when caught not to make believe that the person who turned you in is the bigger culprit. They betrayed your trust you say? How about the person who you lied to in the first place? Did you betray their trust? Try to take some responsibility for your own actions or inactions.
No, I am not saying this because I "turned someone in." As far as I know, I haven't revealed anything told to me in confidence in a long time. I just get tired of trying to advise people or listen to people complain who have lied and now wonder why things have gotten messy.
I do believe people are usually doing the best they know how to do. But sometimes I really wish I could get through to them that they way they are doing is destructive. Please, learn a new way!
Stop lying to yourself and to others!
Shakes head. Takes deep breath and steps down off the box. Picks up the box and goes back to her place as friend who listens compassionately and tries to understand everyone.
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